Taking time out for yourself

I realised that I hadn't written my blog for almost a week - I normally like to write every day - but I've been really busy and have had to make sure that I look after myself and spend time with my family. So in business speak I guess you could say that I've been prioritising.

When you are pregnant this is really important, many women hold down stressful jobs and have many demands placed on them, particularly if it's not your first baby.

It can be hard to take time out and take yourself somewhere to relax and just let go.

Looking after yourself, means that you are looking after your baby. It's not just taking time out to physically recuperate and re-energise, but to look back or to look ahead and reflect on your life and the changes that are taking place. These emotional adjustments are essential and it was no surprise when I read a report which indicated the hypnosis meant reduced risk of postnatal depression. If you are not prepared for the change sometimes the transition is not as easy as you may think and can lead to anxiety postnatally.

When I work with couples I really try and emphasise how important it is to take time out to meditate on the baby growing within you and to consider how you are choosing to prepare the way for its entry into the world.

Think of it as a new stage in your life, an adventure you are embarking upon where you will be discovering new skills and abilities you weren't even aware that you had. Imagine your remarkable ability to adapt to a new member of your family and to trust in your own intuition.

Rather than working up until the last possible moment, understand that this preparation is as important as spending time with the baby after it has been born and will help you give the best you can. Ask if you can work part time and slowly reduce your hours, giving yourself a good few weeks to just relax and spend time with your family and your unborn child.

Listen to your body, if you feel tired then rest - even if it is just for a few minutes take yourself somewhere quiet. Treat yourself to a pedicure or maybe try some pregnancy massage from someone who is properly trained.

Remember, prioritising is important at home as at work, and when you are pregnant, your biggest priority is you. Look after yourself!